We have built walls around us with our views of life and many times, we cannot see beyond these walls. We have made a way to see the world and then made believe this way is the way it is. Then, to reinforce that we are right, we go and try and impose this way upon others and when it doesn't work we become angry and frustrated.
There is a way out, and that way is to want more for others than for ourselves. Truly desiring the best and highest good for all involved. That doesn't always mean that we get what we think we want, and many times certainly we don't get what we think we want. But what we think we want is likely based on a flawed belief system, and usually entails "how can I get more for me?" We tend to think that if we can just get this, or that, then we will be happy, but seldom ever are when we get that thing. When we let go of this, the Universe always has something much better for us. Confusing?
We tend to try and insert our will upon others; if they could just do what I want, or accept my point of view, then everything would be fine. It is interesting how we even greet others throughout our day. We ask "how's it going" but many times we really don't even care, we are so worried about what we are not getting, or what's wrong in our own lives. We may be listening from; "that's great but what about me?" So many times, if we look with honest eyes, we can see how self-obsession is the root of all our problems. How about you? Try asking someone how their day is going, truly being interested, then actually listen from a place of truly wishing the best for them and detaching from your views and opinions for a minute.
Especially with those close to us. We want the best for them, certainly, and we think we know best. Our lovers, friends, children, parents; we want the best for them and we think if they could do this or do that (usually our way) their lives would be all better. But the things we think are the best for them are the same ways of being we use in our own lives that many times produce less than desirable results. So, we are wishing the best for them based on formulas that often do not work, especially for us. In short, we are trying to teach them fear and lack based thinking. We want them to see the world the way we do, but how is the way we see the world working for us? Are we living in Love or fear? Do we see lack, or abundance?
Gratitude is a great way to wish the best for others. When we look upon the people in our lives in the light of gratitude we begin to see the gift that they truly are. When we look upon our own life in the beautiful light of gratitude we see our authentic self shining through. Shine that light. Choose to see the light in others shining through, look for the beauty in them, and connect with that light. This light will eliminate the darkness in ourselves, and for each other. This is the great healing light of Love and all of it's beautiful attributes. Choose to live in Love today. When we do this, we are all healers.

Thank You